Ending on an Up Note: Needs at the Crux

nathon-fillon-exasperated-wtf-gif“We’re all wired to learn and grow. The research on happiness is pretty clear that continuing to learn and grow and master something is a big piece of what makes us happy and satisfied in life. It’s why we take up hobbies in retirement. It’s why we stick with golf, right? Because that occasional good round gives you the illusion that you’re getting better. It’s very satisfying.

The problem is that there’s a second human need, which is a need to be accepted and respected and loved and to feel safe just the way you are now. And the very fact of feedback suggests that how you are now is not quite okay.”

—Sheila Heen, co-author of Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well, in an interview with Ross Reynolds of KUOW  94.9FM Seattle News & Information, March 19, 2014.

So sign that darned evaluation…and then enjoy your weekend.

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